Civility in the Workplace
January 13th, 2011By Patty Hampton, CSP, Managing Director, Staffing Services/Executive Search Consultant
Civility is my new favorite word for 2011. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, its means in the archaic: training in the humanities and the second definition is a: civilized conduct; especially: courtesy, politeness and b: a polite act or expression.
While defining the word can be easy, I was thrilled when I ran across a book that cleverly examines and makes life and workplace references by offering a realistic approach that is not often popular with most people. The author that took an unpopular path to examine and give true authentic meaning and thought to the word civility is P.M. Forni, an award-winning professor at Johns Hopkins University who wrote Choosing Civility – The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct. The book is a testament of sorts of how we all should live. Not only was I moved by the author’s inspiration to write about civility, but the many meanings of this word are not as simply as one would believe. The complexity of the word drives me to look at everything I do and say in this realm of authentic living and who I am in the workplace, with family and friends or who I am being publicly.
While each rule can easily be practiced and attributed to the workplace and to life, I was inspired by all of the Rules of Considerate Conduct that the author writes about, however two of them touched me the most. The one that is the most intriguing is number 15, Respect Other People’s Space. With this rule, the author talks about the quality of our relationships with our coworkers and promoting a culture of civility in the workplace.
I have been an HR practitioner for over 18 years. I cannot tell you how many employee relation issues I have handled related to work related stress either from a coworker or supervisor. Today, even as an executive staffing consultant, I am often asked if an organization values and promotes a work/life balance culture. After all these years, I am still in awe by this question because it is still top of mind for so many applicants. People want to know if a workplace is stress-free or is more stressful than the one they plan to leave. I am a firm believer that people seek out and want a stress-free work environment. They not only crave one, but demand one.
The drama that sometimes ensues from angry supervisors, coworkers and executives is no longer acceptable in the workplace. People get the fact that they may have to work longer because of the downturn of the economy, but they’ll be damned if they have to work in an environment that dishes out drama eight hours a day. I am convinced that people will continue to evaluate their own tolerance for work-related stress that at times seems to invade our space. Today’s employees will also want to work for employers that actively promote a less stressful or stress-free work environment.
I think we all can agree that “civility makes for better relationships among coworkers” as the author states in his book. I also agree with him that this is going to be one of the most attractive and appealing incentives for organizations to attract and retain top talent. People are not looking to be coddled, but they are examining their passion for the work that they do, contentment in promoting a mission of an organization they believe in, and a workplace that promotes and authentically values healthy workplace culture. Saying you promote it is no longer enough. Give the person who asks the question examples of how you practice “civility” in your organization.
My second favorite point is number 22: Refrain from Idle Complaints. In this rule, Forni talks about his experience with service excellence and the civil workplace. “I value good service”, he writes. As employees in the workplace we are all customers of each other and the constituents we serve. The author talks about a civil workplace. He says it is about improving the customer’s experience. Without disclosing too much since I know you plan to read the book, can you equate the quality of service to the quality of one’s life? He states that a stressed, over-burdened, fatigued, harassed, or underpaid employee is not likely to provide the best service. I agree. I’ve seen it in action. He is not saying give all your employees raises so they provide good customer service. However, it does make sense that if employees are energized and engaged in a reasonable workload there is a positive effect on the customer’s experience.
Work/life balance is not just some policy statement. As HR professionals we have to practice what we preach. We have to make it a way of being in the workplace and we have to be the leaders that make it happen. Workplace civility has to be part of our culture and who we are.
I applaud Forni for devoting an entire book to the word civility. Not only is this book a guide for promoting and teaching civility in the workplace, but should be a must read for every HR practitioner who has a vested interest promoting this type of culture and a goal to attract and retain the best talent for your organization.
